• Why Babies Learn to Walk

Being an example

Can you remember when you learned to walk? I can’t. It was a long time ago. But I’ve been privileged to watch children learn to walk. It’s incredible. It fascinates me. Like watching a great movie or listening to an amazing song, watching children teaching themselves to walk is a reminder of the power of example. It also reminds me just how heavy the weight of responsibility can be.

If you’re thinking that I’m being dramatic, let me explain.

The Real Reason Babies Walk

Being an example

I’ve heard many analogies inspiring us to take lessons from children as they learn to walk. Each one of them makes sense, but up until recently, I didn’t fully intuit why it was that children learnt to walk.

It’s because of us. They see us walking around on two legs. And the older they get, the more curious babies become. They watch us walking around, getting swiftly and elegantly from the kitchen counter to the sofa. They see us running, watching the wind we kick up in our wake. Babies watch us and they want a piece of this walking action.

How long does it take them to realise that crawling is just not an efficient way to travel? I don’t know, but at some point, they make the decision that they too will stand. They too will walk!

Overcoming Failure is About Choices

Being an example

The baby plants her hands into the ground and shift her weight onto their feet. There’s a brief moment where her legs are holding some weight and the pressure is right under her feet. Suddenly there’s trembling. Weakness. And then she’s back on the floor. Maybe the she cries. Maybe she just sits there, confused about why it didn’t work.

But before they even know that quitting is an option, who do they see? More and more people, walking around! Not one of them is falling over. Not one of them is looking scared while they walk. Babies watch this and don’t see another opportunity to fail. Babies see a chance to try again. After all, overcoming failure is easy when you’re surrounded by so many examples of success. In an environment where people have what you want, how can you not succeed?

Environment Shapes our Beliefs

Being an example

Just like Tarzan learned to swing through the treetops of the jungle when he was raised by apes, every one of us learns behaviours from the families that we are raised in. Babies learn to walk because there’s no room for anything but walking upright. Walking is like breathing. It needs to happen. There are numerous examples of how it works. Just crane your neck at your mother, your father, your siblings and your grandparents. Go to the mall and you’ll see hundreds more doing the same thing. Success is everywhere you look.

Walking is everywhere. And so, you keep trying. The trying becomes more effective. And eventually you’re up. And then comes your first step. Then your second. After that, you’re one your way to becoming a master of this whole “walking” thing. When success becomes your focus, failure loses its power.

Your Children Are Watching Your Example

Being an example

Your children may be older now. They may already know how to walk and talk and eat without spilling on themselves. But they’re still watching you. They’re still learning from you. Your limitations will become their limitations, if you’re not careful of what you say and do.

As I write this, you and I are examples to the people in our lives. We show them what is possible and equally, what is impossible. Our responsibility in living is far greater than we will ever realise, because we are always an example to someone out there.

Isn’t it time that we started acting like the kind of example we want to be? The kind that inspires children to see past limitations?

Be a Growth-Oriented Example

Being an example

In her book Mindset, Dr. Carol Dweck gave us two approaches to life. The first was to see everything as fixed. Intelligence, talent, everything is predefined and only finite. This is the Fixed Mindset.

The other option she suggested was to see ourselves as constantly growing as we learn. Everything we want to achieve can be achieved and mastered with enough time, practice, guidance and help. There’s an abundance of everything in the universe. This is the Growth Mindset.

You don’t need to be the best at anything in order to be a great example for your children. All you have to do is believe that you are constantly growing, changing and learning. When you laugh at your failures and learn from them, you become the example your children need to become anything, do anything and dream anything.

No matter if these dreams are bigger than yours ever were. Don’t let that scare you. They will find the answers, the solutions to bring their dreams to life. In fact, let’s hope that all of our children dream ten-times bigger than we ever could. But whatever you do, as of today, know that you are being watched, in the most beautiful way…because you are an example.


Until next time…
Be brilliant!


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